How to help when you're apart?
Hi, my boyfriend has been depressed for a while now, he tells me some of his problems but we don't live in the same city, we talk through chat and I don't know what I can do, I want to be a shoulder to cry on, I want to help him, I just don't know how.
Often times he tells me something like "I feel really bad again" and I just don't know how to comfort him, or "My chest really hurts" things like physical pains or problem breathing or such and I simply don't know how to respond, I often just start asking questions like "for how long? is it deep? is it constant?" things like that.
I just really want to help him, he refuses to go to therapy because he doesn't have any money and won't take any anyone offers, he's scared, he was suicidal a couple of days ago and I don't know, he started saying goodbye to everyone, telling them what he was going to do and asking for their acceptance of this decision, everyone else gave it to him but I couldn't, I couldn't accept for him to kill himself and I got mad at everyone that did.
Please I just want to help him feel better but every article about how to help them is about what you can do being really there with them, I need to know what I can do from apart, please I want him to be happy, please help.
Thankfully prayer has been medically proven... and rightly so because it works! God is everywhere and we are not. His love is unconditional. Here's a prayer you can pray and turn it to be for your boyfriend...
"Lord, there are many who are giving up right now with some even thinking of ending their lives. Please help me to be a light, to be a hand outstretched, and to be an intercessor for those who can no longer hear their spirits crying, “Choose life! Choose life!” Help me speak life to the souls of those who do not yet know that Jesus is calling them to choose life!
Give me opportunities to share your love with them. Help me share your plans of hope and a prosperous future with these souls—believers and not-yet-believers alike. Help me to speak words that will penetrate their discouragement so that they will want to hear more words of life. Holy Spirit, encourage them to know that you can lead them out of the barren and howling wasteland they are in even now. Those who have lost their hope, their courage, and their faith—as well as those who have no awareness of faith yet—please shield them, care for them, and guard them. Those whose heads are bowed with pain, steady them until they turn to you. I bind their confused minds to the mind of Christ so that they can hear His thoughts instead of the dark thoughts of their own heart/souls.
I bind their battered and negative emotions to your comfort and balance, Holy Spirit. I bind every heart/soul that is filled with hopelessness—believers and yet-to-be believers alike—to an awareness of your blood, Jesus, that you shed for them that they could be free to live the abundant life you have planned for them.
Help me to help them want to live. Bind up these brokenhearted souls and teach them your ways, O LORD; give them focused and undivided hearts that will strain to get to you instead of always trying to shrink back into the darkness. I loose, smash, crush, and destroy every effect and influence of all wrong agreements ever made about each one of them, over them, as well as the wrong agreements they made themselves. Shower them with your love as you strengthen them to CHOOSE LIFE!
You know right where they are, and you know the ones who are the most desperate and wanting to give up. I loose the deception and denial that their heart/souls keep trying to shroud their minds with. I agree with you as you speak these words to them: CHOOSE LIFE AND LIVE! Help them come out of the valley of despair they are in so they can choose to walk on the high places with you. Thank you for doing this for them. Amen"
There is hope!
Merri Ellen :)