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February 28, 2007
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"A Brilliant Anxiety, Depression and Stress Management Technique You Can Use Right Now"
- by Chris Green
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Stress. Depression. Anxiety. They’re powerful words that conjure up all kinds of images and prejudices in our minds. People who suffer from these illnesses find it hard to cope with life. They can feel deeply unhappy, they can find no joy in anything life has to offer, and of course, their levels of self-esteem, confidence and self-respect plummet.
Let's look at a major factor with all of these problems and then I'll show you a brilliant anxiety, depression and stress management technique you can use as soon as you've read this article.
First, we'll look at how anxiety, depression and stress affect the way sufferers value the self. Of all of the destructive patterns of behavior these problems cause, the way a sufferer talks to the self is the fuel that maintains anxiety, depression and stress.
I have experienced depression from two sides. For 5 years, a series of traumatic events triggered a personal nightmare I believed would never end. One of these events came when my lover was diagnosed with depression. At this time, I too had entered into the spiral of anxiety and depression. Both of these experiences have given me an insight into how sufferers destroy any value of the self.
Let me give a couple of examples. With my partner, if I’d arranged an evening out with friends, she’d say:
"No, I won’t come, you go without me. I never have anything interesting to say. I just bore people. They’ll find me an effort to be with. I’ll stay here."
If I made a mistake, I’d say to myself:
"I’m useless. I’m no good at anything. Everything I do I get wrong."
This self-deprecation then spreads into other areas of life. You begin to criticize the way you look, the decisions you make or don’t make, and you focus solely on the downside of life. Each time a little bit of self-worth, a little bit of self-respect and a little bit of self-confidence are eroded. Eventually, they are lost completely. When I reached my lowest point, having lost everything and everyone I loved, I’d say to myself:
"If I died tomorrow, no one would know and no one would care."
So, what helped me to come out of the fog of anxiety and depression?
Well, the reason I thought I’d become depressed was because of a series of traumatic events occurring at the same time. I was wrong. The root cause of my depression lay in the ways I reacted to them. One of the ways I’d reacted was to blame myself for events I couldn’t control. The more I blamed myself, the more I beat myself up. The more I beat myself up, the more my self-esteem decreased.
The phrases I have used to briefly illustrate self- deprecating phrases we continually use against the self are mild. I’m sure you realize that many sufferers use much stronger phrases than I’ve given here. The point is that these phrases would be totally unacceptable to say to others. You wouldn’t tell a person that they were boring, an effort to be with and that everyone found their company dull and it would be better for everyone else if they kept away from people.
Yet, if I say to people:
"Pay yourself compliments. Accentuate your good in all areas of your life. Write down your good points, your triumphs, your achievements. Remind yourself as often as possible about all the good you have done."
They look at me like I’m an alien and say they’d feel stupid. Or uncomfortable. Or even embarrassed.
Yet they don’t feel any of these emotions when they talk to themselves using emotionally charged, self-deprecating phrases! And like rust upon metal, these phrases gradually erode our self-esteem and our confidence.
OK, here’s a brilliant anxiety, depression and stress management technique you can use right now to help you find relief. I’d like you to inscribe what you are about to read into your mind over and over again until it is permanently etched there:
It is NEVER acceptable to talk to myself in a way I know is inappropriate and even offensive if I spoke in the same way to others.
It's just one sentence but my word is it a very powerful anxiety, depression and stress management technique and I urge you to use it starting right now.
Time for me to sign off, but before I do, here’s a phrase I say to myself every single day without fail. Please use it, it is very powerful:
"If you put yourself down, down is where you will stay."
(Article by Chris Green) Learn more now and change your life: http://www.cure-your-depression.com/conqueringstress.html
To your health!
Editor of www.cure-your-depression.com
P.S. Chris conquered five years of anxiety-induced depression without taking antidepressants. He has written a book, that is now globally acclaimed, to help people beat stress, depression and anxiety without taking drugs.
It can be downloaded from his website at... (You may need to copy and paste it into your URL)
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