I need help with my loved one.
Hey, I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and she was diagnosed with depression before we met. she told me it was because of a horrible relationship she had before me.
we live together and for the last 6 months I've really been feeling the stress of her condition. Its so easy for her to go from completely normal to silent and withdrawn, and stay that way for hours, even when were out at social gatherings she cant help but be sad if something comes up. I'm gaining anxiety for this, mean I try my hardest to talk to her about whats on her mind and cheer her up but its getting to the point where it seems its futile to, no matter what, which frustrates me and just makes me give up on her sooner. I know that sounds uncaring on my part but, I'm getting warn out. I've talked to her about going to see some one or even a group and she seem on the fence about it. All I want is some guidance on the best course of action I really want her to be happy.
David, thanks for your question. Way to hang in there. Keep on with the tough love and say something like: "I love you and want you to experience freedom from this and freedom in our relationship. To let you continue down this path, would be the end of our relationship and I don't want to abandon you. I've made an appointment for you and we are both going to sit with a counselor. You are worth more than what you're experiencing. Let's take a few steps forward together." Just calmly and gently guide her step by step. No coercing. When I was in depression, I needed my husband to lead me by the hand on the next steps.
You can do it David. :)
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