Making friends

I've always had problems developing new relationships. I grew up in a small town and had the same friends since childhood so I never really had to make friends; they were just there. Since I've moved on, I've realized that this is most likely the reason why I'm always depressed: I cannot bond with people so therefore, I live a life without close friendships. I'm married and my husband and I are close; I have a close relationship with my daughter. Everyone else I believe are judging me. I have a tendency to be on the serious side and this doesn't help because I'm not attracted to people who can't laugh. Anti-depressants do not change this in me. When I spend time with other people, I feel sooo good and happy but a little empty. How do I begin to change this?


Perhaps finding yourself a mentor or coach would be a help for you. I have sought out women to coach and mentor me through various circumstances in my life and this has made all the difference. If you can't find someone in your circles to help you step out of your comfort zone, hire someone to start. Feel free to even go with one of our online advisers. Go to... How To Access Online Counseling for Depression From Home

There is hope!

Merri Ellen :)

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Nov 01, 2011
u not alone
by: lis

I know exactly what you're saying. I don't know how to bond with people either; even my husband and I rarely communicate. I feel alone all the time especially in social situations like at church or Bible studies where it seams EVERYONE has their own circle of friends and I'm just there butting in on their conversations. I rarely speak I have a social anxiety that I'm just afraid to speak weather it's to one person or one-hundred. That of course makes it all but impossible to make friends. I've been this way since I was a small child so I don't really know what it's like to have a friend.
I'm very lonely.
Antidepressants.....they help me to feel better and not wanna die, but they have had no affect on my social anxiety at all. I can't even talk to a counselor.....I freeze up with them just as I do anyone else. So I'm afraid I'm hopeless. (_ _)
I just wanted you to know you're not alone in your struggle. I pray you are able to overcome it.

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